When you’re divorcing a manipulative partner or a narcissist, here are some do’s and don’ts that can help you.
How To Build Resilience When Leaving An Emotionally Abusive Partner Or Narcissist
Building resilience is all important when leaving an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist.
Why you’re not to blame for a toxic relationship.
When it comes to toxic relationships, my clients always take the blame for being sucked in. The number one question they ask me when they realise they are or were in a toxic relationship is “ Why me?”. Followed by: “How could I have been so blind/naive/stupid?” “This is not …
8 Mistakes You May Make When Leaving a Narcissist, (But Which May Be Necessary).
I was once married to a narcissist. It lasted 21 years. Only, I didn’t know it at the time. I only started to see him and his games for what they were when I got away. “Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” ~ Jonathan Franzen Getting …
Practical Matters and Tips When Leaving The Narcissist
Narcissists usually operate under the radar for quite a while. At least with the people they feed off.It’s usually easier for outsiders who are close to you to see that something is off in your relationship. But when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may not see or …
Not-Knowing and The Fear of Change: The Big Excuses To Stay In A Toxic Relationship.
2007 was the year I had my wake up call. 2007 was a year of chaos and pain. My wake-up call told me it was time to make a huge life change. I was stuck in this toxic relationship, yet I didn’t know how to get out. Or if I’d …
12 Signs You’re Just An Option To Someone
“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”Maya Angelou Knowing when you’re an option to someone is hard. Often we don’t want to see the signs, but deep down we just know. I once was an option for someone. For a long time, I …
What To Do About The Thoughts That Erode Your Self-Esteem In A Toxic Relationship
When you’re in a toxic relationship, for sure you must have —unconscious— thoughts affecting your self-esteem. These thoughts are not necessarily true. But having you believe your own stinking thinking is an effective strategy that a toxic person uses against you. This tool keeps you in doubt, panic, confusion and …
When A Horse Calls BS On You.
Last month I had the pleasure and privilege to experience an Equus coaching session with Anna Kerckhoff de Sacchi. I’ve always wanted to be coached by horses, and since Anna and I are from the same “tribe” and in the Algarve, we decided to get together and just go for …
The Need To Feel Negative Emotions.
Have you ever heard someone saying to you: “Be positive and it will all go away”? And did you feel like hitting them? You see, being positive all the time is impossible. And it will not solve everything. Because the shit you’re suppressing, the things you tuck away so you …
Want To Know What You Really Want? Start With What You Don’t Want.
You may think it’s easy to know what you want. But if you live your life rushing around, working non-stop and feeling stressed out, you probably don’t. Chances are you’re disconnected from your inner truth. To reconnect to that truth each one of us possesses is not as easy as …