When it comes to toxic relationships, my clients always take the blame for being sucked in. The number one question they ask me when they realise they are or were in a toxic relationship is “ Why me?”. Followed by: “How could I have been so blind/naive/stupid?” “This is not …
I was once married to a narcissist. It lasted 21 years. Only, I didn’t know it at the time. I only started to see him and his games for what they were when I got away. “Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” ~ Jonathan Franzen Getting …
Narcissists usually operate under the radar for quite a while. At least with the people they feed off. It’s usually easier for outsiders who are close to you to see that something is off in your relationship. But when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may not see …
2007 was the year I had my wake up call. 2007 was a year of chaos and pain. My wake-up call told me it was time to make a huge life change. I was stuck in this toxic relationship, yet I didn’t know how to get out. Or if I’d …
Last month I had the pleasure and privilege to experience an Equus coaching session with Anna Kerckhoff de Sacchi. I’ve always wanted to be coached by horses, and since Anna and I are from the same “tribe” and in the Algarve, we decided to get together and just go for …
These past 12 days have been really hard and weird. Loads of “people” stuff happening. Loads of drama and emotions. And that with a full house. And a lot of hot weather. Result: Focus on my work: almost nihil Focus on my home: almost nihil My energy: almost nihil My …
I may be a coach. I may have been trained to deal with emotions, thoughts, behavioUr. So you’d think I can deal with anything. Take it in my stride. But being a coach doesn’t make me superwoman. Doesn’t make me perfect. Doesn’t get rid of my own struggles and fears. …
“I think it’s good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone.” ― Amy Sedaris When we face a difficult life-altering change, making a decision often seems impossible. We overthink, we ask …
We all have times in our lives when we have to start over. This can be because we decide to do so. We make a conscious choice. Or maybe life happens and forces a big change upon us. Obviously, I’m talking about big new beginnings that affect your life in …
