When it comes to toxic relationships, my clients always take the blame for being sucked in. The number one question they ask me when they realise they are or were in a toxic relationship is “ Why me?”. Followed by: “How could I have been so blind/naive/stupid?” “This is not …
I was once married to a narcissist. It lasted 21 years. Only, I didn’t know it at the time. I only started to see him and his games for what they were when I got away. “Nice people don’t necessarily fall in love with nice people.” ~ Jonathan Franzen Getting …
Narcissists usually operate under the radar for quite a while. At least with the people they feed off.It’s usually easier for outsiders who are close to you to see that something is off in your relationship. But when you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, you may not see or …
2007 was the year I had my wake up call. 2007 was a year of chaos and pain. My wake-up call told me it was time to make a huge life change. I was stuck in this toxic relationship, yet I didn’t know how to get out. Or if I’d …
When you’re in a toxic relationship, for sure you must have —unconscious— thoughts affecting your self-esteem. These thoughts are not necessarily true. But having you believe your own stinking thinking is an effective strategy that a toxic person uses against you. This tool keeps you in doubt, panic, confusion and …
Last month I had the pleasure and privilege to experience an Equus coaching session with Anna Kerckhoff de Sacchi. I’ve always wanted to be coached by horses, and since Anna and I are from the same “tribe” and in the Algarve, we decided to get together and just go for …
Have you ever heard someone saying to you: “Be positive and it will all go away”? And did you feel like hitting them? You see, being positive all the time is impossible. And it will not solve everything. Because the shit you’re suppressing, the things you tuck away so you …
You may think it’s easy to know what you want. But if you live your life rushing around, working non-stop and feeling stressed out, you probably don’t. Chances are you’re disconnected from your inner truth. To reconnect to that truth each one of us possesses is not as easy as …
I may be a coach. I may have been trained to deal with emotions, thoughts, behavioUr. So you’d think I can deal with anything. Take it in my stride. But being a coach doesn’t make me superwoman. Doesn’t make me perfect. Doesn’t get rid of my own struggles and fears. …
“I think it’s good for a person to spend time alone. It gives them an opportunity to discover who they are and to figure out why they are always alone.” ― Amy Sedaris When we face a difficult life-altering change, making a decision often seems impossible. We overthink, we ask …
We all have times in our lives when we have to start over. This can be because we decide to do so. We make a conscious choice. Or maybe life happens and forces a big change upon us. Obviously, I’m talking about big new beginnings that affect your life in …
