To the outside world, it looked like I had it all together.
That I was this confident woman with a marvellous life.

With everything she could wish for.

But on the inside it was a whole different story.

On the inside, I was full of doubt and worry. Inside I felt sort of crazy. I never felt fully content. I had a strong sense of something missing. Yet I didn’t know what. Or what I wanted instead.
I was angry at myself and felt guilty for being ungrateful. Because I had it all! What was I complaining about?
Over the years I toiled on, going through the motions. I existed, but I didn’t live.

I believed that it was this way for everyone.


Then I got a wake up call.

Which made me realize I didn’t know who I was. That I didn’t like myself all that much.
I understood I no longer wanted this joyless life, with all the drama. With all the walking on eggshells

So I rebelled.

I’m Christel. I had it all and yet I had nothing.

And I became a rebel. I decided to choose me. I upgraded my life.

Upgrading your life starts with choosing you. With finding out who you are and what you want your life to be.
Choosing yourself is not selfish. It’s the most unselfish thing you’ll ever do.
Once you’ve decided it’s your time, you can make changes. Step by step. You can upgrade.

I can help you upgrade your life. So you can thrive.

“There is a tremendous difference between existing and thriving.”
Laurie Buchanan

I spent most of my life doing what others expected from me.

And I disappeared.

I was taught to do what others wanted or expected. The so-called right thing.
What I didn’t know was that the right thing for others wasn’t necessarily right for me.
I became an approval-addict, a people-pleaser. With no boundaries for my own desires and needs.

Of course this had to blow up one day.

It took me a while, but I finally rebelled against all that was the wrong kind of “right” for me.

I was terrified of who the real me would turn out to be.
I was terrified of leaving everything behind. Because I had tried so hard to keep it together for all these years. I was terrified of losing everybody and everything.

But I made it. And so can you.

And I realised I could help other women make their life the best it can be.

So I promised to help women THRIVE!

One More Thing

I have a special place in my heart for women who are dealing with or have left a manipulative relationship. A relationship with insidious emotional, verbal and psychological abuse by a narcissist or a manipulative partner, family member, friend. A relationship that leaves you crazy and full of self-doubt.

If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place to start your healing.


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Some (un)important things about me

I love animals. All creatures great and small — well, large poisonous spiders may not be my thing. I have a thing about elephants, but they don’t fit in my living room. So I have 6 dogs and 1 cat.
I adore my morning coffee. But don’t give me any after 2 pm, ’cause I’ll be awake all night like some sort of Gremlin. And annoying too.
I have two grown-up sons who refuse to leave Hotel Christel, so I must have done something good —or not!). And last but not least, a supportive husband who helped me start over my career.
I love blue skies, sunshine and the beach. That’s why I live in the Algarve. Yet sometimes I need me some city energy. NYC is on the top of my list, but a visit to my home city, Antwerp can do the trick.